Dear Ann Landers,
ou printed a letter from a woman who had showered, brushed her hair, put on a pretty nightie, dabbed perfume all over and waited in vain for her husband to make a move. When he did nothing, she said, "It was humiliating for me to ask him to make love to me, but I did. He told me he was tired and rolled over and went to sleep." I have a suggestion for that woman and all others with the same problem. When a man says he is too tired, be sympathetic. Say, "I know you are, dear. Lie on your stomach and let me give you a nice re-laxing massage ..." Get some cream or lotion-any kind will do-and give him a wonderfully loving back rub, working your fingers up and down his spine, onto his shoulders and neck, using a circular motion. The quality and variety of the massage is limited only by your imagi-nation. Chances are very good that the back rub will make him realize he wasn't as tired as he thought. A woman who wants love sometimes needs to be aggressive. She should not wait until her husband comes to her. So, I say to you wives out there, it is high time you got busy and made an effort to get what you want, need and is rightfully yours. -Successful in Ore.

Dear Ore.,
Hurray for letting married women know that physical intimacy from a spouse is not a privilege, it's an entitlement. I heartily recommend your approach. T ii f Best ii r Ann L a n ii e ii s I 47 A woman once wrote and asked me, "What can I do about a man who just rolls over and goes to sleep?" I told her, "Wake him up. If he growls, 'Can't you see I'm sleeping?' respond with, 'Yes, dear, but you're such a marvelous lover, and I really do need you.' Almost any man will respond if you turn on the heat." In 1966,1printed two letters from businessmen who were too tired for sex. They certainly stinted up a hornet's nest.