Dear Ann Landers,
I recently gave a dinner party. I prefer to serve my guests myself and tried to be emphatic about it, but one guest insisted on "helping" me. I know "Lola" was only trying to be useful, but she was getting in my way. I asked her several times to please sit down and stay out of the kitchen, but she followed me around and insisted on giving me a hand.
To get her off my back, I asked her to take a creamer into the dining room and place it on the table. Well, she dropped it on the tile floor, shattering the handle and spilling the cream all over the place. Lola then had the nerve to say that good china like mine is really just for show and I should not have been using it.
My great-grandmother's creamer is, of course, irreplaceable, but I am going to get another china handle crafted onto it. Should I send Lola the bill? -- Slow Burn in Pasadena, Calif.
Dear Slow Burn,
Stick your toe in the water for testing. Tell Lola you've found a place that will mend the creamer and ask whether she would like the bill. My guess is she will be happy to pay it. It will ease her conscience and cool your anger.